Hey ladies and gents! So, from the last time we spoke, we determined that online dating has become oh so popular, especially Jdate for Jewish singles. Although much of this world is now technology based (which can be great, especially with the internet) anyone, whether you are a guy or a girl have to take caution when you are participating on an online dating site. Besides the obvious precautions of online dating such as not giving out your address and your last name until you really know the person, we all wonder, "is the person behind that computer screen real, or are they a sixty year old petafile pretending to be the 6’0” tall, dark and handsome, successful, financial analyst from Manhattan?" Who knows!
About a year ago, I was talking to a guy for a couple of months before we met (it was long distance). For a moment during a phone call, I thought "What if this guy is a sixty year old man just saying that he is a 28 year old business man from Florida?" Yes, we were friends on Facebook, which can pretty much assure you that the person is real and who they say they are. Especially if they have a good amount of pictures online and if they have tons of friends writing to them .. BUT, you never know with anyone anymore!
I was very curious to meet this guy who I have talked to on the phone for a couple of hours almost every day, yet at the same time, I was nervous that he would not be who he says he is. In the midst of parking the car, looking around for him, wondering if he was in the restaurant, or outside waiting for me, I saw him and it was such a relief that this guy was in fact who he said he was and he wasn’t a serial rapist. After we said hi and exchanged a big hug, he said "Wow, you really are who you said you are" and I said the same thing to him! Yes, he was the guy who I saw in pictures on Facebook and much to my surprise, he resembled his pictures exactly! This does not always happen when you meet people from online dating websites. We had a great time and we had Jdate to thank!
Another great thing about online and long distance dating is that you can get to know someone and really build a great emotional bond and that is a foundation for a great relationship, if it works out (But we’ll get more into that in another post!)
The question is, How do we know the person who we are talking to (guy or girl) is real and who they say they are? Well, you don’t! Until you meet in person you will not know if the person is who they say they are. Yes, you might talk to them on the phone and see their pictures on Facebook but that doesn’t mean it is the same person as their profile shows on Jdate or any other dating website.
Here’s another interesting story for y’all! I was recently talking to a guy who lived nearby and after we exchanged a couple of emails via Gmail (after emailing on Jdate, of course!) he admitted that he wrote from a fake email address to make sure that I am “not crazy”. He then went and emailed me from his “real” email address.
About a year ago, I was talking to a guy for a couple of months before we met (it was long distance). For a moment during a phone call, I thought "What if this guy is a sixty year old man just saying that he is a 28 year old business man from Florida?" Yes, we were friends on Facebook, which can pretty much assure you that the person is real and who they say they are. Especially if they have a good amount of pictures online and if they have tons of friends writing to them .. BUT, you never know with anyone anymore!
I was very curious to meet this guy who I have talked to on the phone for a couple of hours almost every day, yet at the same time, I was nervous that he would not be who he says he is. In the midst of parking the car, looking around for him, wondering if he was in the restaurant, or outside waiting for me, I saw him and it was such a relief that this guy was in fact who he said he was and he wasn’t a serial rapist. After we said hi and exchanged a big hug, he said "Wow, you really are who you said you are" and I said the same thing to him! Yes, he was the guy who I saw in pictures on Facebook and much to my surprise, he resembled his pictures exactly! This does not always happen when you meet people from online dating websites. We had a great time and we had Jdate to thank!
Another great thing about online and long distance dating is that you can get to know someone and really build a great emotional bond and that is a foundation for a great relationship, if it works out (But we’ll get more into that in another post!)
The question is, How do we know the person who we are talking to (guy or girl) is real and who they say they are? Well, you don’t! Until you meet in person you will not know if the person is who they say they are. Yes, you might talk to them on the phone and see their pictures on Facebook but that doesn’t mean it is the same person as their profile shows on Jdate or any other dating website.
Here’s another interesting story for y’all! I was recently talking to a guy who lived nearby and after we exchanged a couple of emails via Gmail (after emailing on Jdate, of course!) he admitted that he wrote from a fake email address to make sure that I am “not crazy”. He then went and emailed me from his “real” email address.
Do you think the guy has to be more cautious in who he talks to and what information he gives out?
I think the girl should be more cautious in giving her email address out, her phone number, and any other information, especially because of awful incidents that have happened in this crazy world.
The guy I was just talking about - his entire Jdate profile seemed shady. He said that he grew up in Washington but when I asked him he said that he in fact grew up in New York City, and that must have been a typo. Hmmmm, writing Washington when you really meant to write NYC is a typo? I don’t think so! He said under occupation, “complicated”.
The bottom line everyone is this: anyone, anywhere can say anything that they want, whether they are online, on the phone or in person. We do have to put our trust in some people as we date especially when it's online, so be careful!
- What are your experiences with these guys?
- Have you been lied to like this, that you are aware of on online dating sites?
- Have you met a guy in person from an online dating site and was completely shocked at how they looked (Compared to their pictures)??
WE WANT YOUR FEEDBACK!!!!
Kiss Kiss, Hug Hug
-L.
Edited by D
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